Buddha tells us to love ourselves first because we cannot give to others what we do not already have.
Interestingly enough when we stop to explore, self-love what actually rises for most of us. Questioning how much we love ourselves and understanding how we fill up our cup of self-love is an interesting exercise. For most of us even stopping to think about how much we love ourselves, stirs deep emotions and often self-judgment flows right in.
Self-love is important to living well. It influences who you pick for a mate, the image you project at work and how you cope with the problems in your life. But it’s not simply a state of feeling good, It’s a state of appreciation for oneself that grows with action. When we participate in our lives in a self-caring way we can begin to accept our weaknesses and grow with our strengths. A more centered approach to life just happens, and opportunities to live your lifes purpose have a magical way of presenting themselves.
In exploration of self-love I have found self-forgiveness. We are just so hard on ourselves. It’s one thing to take responsibility for our actions but it’s the behaviour of not letting things go that affects us. I call this ‘building my letting go muscles’ and we all know an unworked muscle loses its strength. Boundary setting and learning the art of saying no along with good daily self-care practice has been the core to filling my self-love cup. But what I guess has been most surprising is I find myself acting on what I need rather then what I want, I naturally make better choices; nourishing myself daily with healthy activities, food choices and healthy social connections.
So no more comparisons, do a self-love audit and move through today mindful of you and your needs because it is true; we must learn to love ourselves first. Treat yourself with love and respect, and that is what you will attract in your life.