Byron Katie, a fantastic author and one I have often explored, talks of 3 kind of business in the universe: mine, yours, and God’s.
Lets firstly understand ‘God’s business’ – it being anything that’s out of my control, your control, and everyone else’s control.
When we think, “You need to get a job, I want you to be happy, you should be on time, you need to take better care of yourself,” I am in your business. Whereas, when I’m worried about earthquakes, floods, war, or when I will die, I am in God’s business.
The truth is this can be hard to see the line of what is your business and what is someone else business. Mostly because the peoples businesses we often get involved in are people we care about. The problem is being in someone else business doesn’t serve you well, infact we know a lot of mental stress comes from living outside our business
“If you are living your life and I am mentally living your life, who is here living mine? We’re both over there. Being mentally in your business keeps me from being present in my own. I am separate from myself, wondering why my life doesn’t work. To think that I know what’s best for anyone else is to be out of my business. Even in the name of love, it is pure arrogance, and the result is tension, anxiety, and fear. Do I know what’s right for me? That is my only business.” ~ Byron Katie
Becoming clear and honouring the choice to stay out of other people’s business is a liberating, however often challenging, practice to master. Sometimes you’ll be able to return to your own business with ease, other times you might need a good friend to remind you that what you are speaking is none of your business. Or it might even be gods business. Either way its not yours and the more clear you are on this the easier you will be able to recognise when you have slipped into someone else business.
If its not your business don’t own it, don’t take it on board or give it life. Instead let it go, its not your to have!